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A Gilbert Arizona Relationship Workshop attendee had the following to say about the Dream Relationship Workshop for couples…

Phenominal workshop! I walked in on Friday night thinking about how life with a divorce would feel. I walked out Sunday night thinking about the great future ahead for the relationship with my wife!” – Scott Johnson, Gilbert, Arizona

A Gilbert Arizona Relationship Workshop attendee had the following to say about the Dream Relationship Workshop for couples…

I think this workshop is going to help, not only my wife and I, but I know that we can use it with our kids. This will better your relationship no matter what stage you are at in it.” – Chris Daws, Tucson Arizona

A Gilbert Arizona Relationship Workshop attendee had the following to say about the Dream Relationship Workshop for couples…

When my husband and I walked in on Friday we couldn’t stand the sight of each other. Through the exercises, I came to realize what we weren’t taking responsibility for and now we have learned some very valuable tools to keep our relationship loving, kind and understanding. It took Friday night and Saturday to have one of the best nights of our lives. The rekindling of the most important relationship of ours lives. By Sunday we couldn’t wait to begin the rest of our happily ever after!” – Tobi Johnson, Gilbert, Arizona

A Gilbert Arizona Relationship Workshop attendee had the following to say about the Dream Relationship Workshop for couples…

Cindy and I have lived together for over six years. This past year we have started to have some difficult times, even to the extent of splitting up. Cindy convinced me to attend this workshop and it has truly opened my eyes to our potential as a couple and to my potential as an individual. It has also provided me with some tools to improve my relationship with Cindy. I am now looking forward to a long, loving relationship with Cindy.”

-Dave Sciotto, Phoenix, Arizona

A Gilbert Arizona Relationship Workshop attendee had the following to say about the Dream Relationship Workshop for couples…

My name is Polly Daws. I have been married since April 2010 and been with the man that is my husband for five years. When we decided to come to this workshop we had no idea what to expect. During the Couples Workshop I found out that my relationship is all about choice and understanding the other person. This workshop has opened my eyes to a new relationship no only with my family but with the people I works on a daily basis. I LOVE this Workshop! It has been so inspiring to find that life is about choice.” - Polly Daws, Tucson, Arizona

Do you ever want a divorce? Do you ever wish your relationship would be different? Do you have a spouse or partner that nags too much or gripes about you all the time? Do they lay around and watch TV when they are not working? Do you ever think, is this it?

Do you ever want a divorce?

The truth is, you created your relationship. What you have today is exactly what you want…based on results. We know that because it is what you have.

Now. What if you created from a place of power? What if you consciously sat down with your partner and negotiated what you wanted your relationship to look like? What if you could have the relationship you truly dream about with a few simple tweaks? Now you can!

This workshop is unique. It is created by a couple who have personally used the techniques taught. This workshop is not a long weekend of you sitting and taking notes. It is anything but boring! You will be moving around the room all weekend and doing activities that will reveal WHY you have what you have in your relationship. The cool thing is you will also be exposed to tools that will support you in getting exactly what you want in your relationship.

Michelle Shelton Facilitator, Coach, Author, Speaker Michelle is the co-creator of the Dream Relationship Workshop. She and her husband, Paul, have five children and live in Gilbert, Arizona. Visit her coaching site: www.boldtalent.com and you canalso find her on facebook at: www.facebook.com/azmastermind

The Dream Relationship Workshop is not about discounts. It really isn’t about the money at all. It is about value. The Dream Relationship Workshop is about you. Are you married? Are you in a relationship? Are you engaged? Dating? Maybe you are a couple that lives together or you are in a committed relationship?

Relationships can be difficult. There are so many things that come into factor. If you are truly committed to being in a relationship, the course can change your life. You can change your life by attending the dream relationship workshop. If you are only here for a discount. I would tell you, move on. This isn’t about the money. It is about what you can create in your life. Happiness has no price. Our workshops are under priced by my standard. The value that comes out of these workshops cannot hold a price. I have seen couples on the verge of divorce come out with a renewed love. As a matter of fact, I have seen couples married for over 20 years come out with a relationship like they NEVER have had…even when they were dating.

So what do you want to improve in your relationship? Communication? Intimacy? Understanding? Love? Compassion? What? Who are you looking to support you in this improvement? Parents? Co-workers? Siblings? Friends? And? Has it happened?

Sign up for the next Dream Relationship Workshop and create the relationship of your dreams. You can do it. You don’t need anything special. Bring yourself and bring your partner. You might need a pen. We provide the paper. You are in for an amazing weekend. It is intense. There are ups and downs. There is honesty like you may never have had and you get to take a good long look at yourself. The cool thing? Your partner does too!

In the words of my husband, this stuff is good!

See you there!
-Michelle Shelton
Confidence and Communications Coach

Have you ever seen someone behave a certain way over and over? Perhaps it is even you and you simply don’t want to admit it.

Parents often scold their children for doing the very thing they, themselves do all the time. The child doesn’t do their homework and then they tell the teacher the dog ate it. When you ask them why they lied, they look at you with all their innocence and say, “well, you lie, you told me the other day to tell the neighbor you weren’t home when he came over.” You are angry about your child not respecting you as the adult. Perhaps you scold them or punish them for pointing out your lie. After all, you are the adult and they are the child.

Unfortunately, this behavior, from you, the adult, sets the pattern for future dishonesty from your child. When they lie to you as a teenager, you simply don’t know where you went wrong. Sound familuar? Ever seen a friend or family member do this to their child?

Why is it that we can see things so clearly in others and we judge them harshly and when it comes to ourselves we make excuses, talk big, avoid, beat ourselves up, make up stories, deny or blame shift? It almost seems like we forgive ourselves quite easily, except it has been my experience that we don’t forgive. To forgive is to give as before. This isn’t 100% of course. I am not saying YOU are not the exception. I am saying that my dealings with hundreds of people over the years, it is consistent that they don’t forgive others or themselves. They tend to build anger, resentments and plot revenge. It may be clever revenge, still, it is revenge.

Are you ready to be honest? No crap. No kidding. Honesty. Normally when I ask people this they say of course. After all, they are an honest person. Then the first time I point out a behavior they display over and over, they are shocked. How dare I say that about them. It just isn’t true. Not only do they deny, sometimes they even act like they didn’t know. Hmmm.

People say they want honesty. I hear this more than anything when dealing with couples. The wife or girlfriend will say, “I just want him to be honest with me.” Sure you do. Except when you don’t. The funny thing is, you are not being honest when you say this. Amazing that you would be with someone that is less than honest. Couples behave a certain way because they train
each other to behave a certain way.

No one wants to be scolded or criticized. Especially the people in our life that we are suppose to love more than anyone else. The first time my husband said I was being too aggressive, I was shocked and amazed. First. How DARE he talk to me that
way. Second. I wasn’t being aggressive at ALL. He was WRONG.

Now we are getting somewhere. It all comes down to just a couple of things. The two needs all humans have are a need to be right and a need to to be seen as ___________. You fill in the blank. Polished, smart, funny, clever, in charge, in control, looking our best in word and in deed. It could be physical attributes such as a trim figure, plastic surgery, youth.

In making my husband wrong, I don’t have to do anything to adjust and be right, I can simply make him wrong and by default, I get to be right. I don’t have to shift at all. Wow. Except this feels bad doesn’t it. It feels bad to him and it feels bad to me too.

Of course, until I was honest with myself I didn’t see this. As a matter of fact I practically shot the messenger, my husband, just because he was exactly what I said I wanted in a man…honest. Go figure. How can he be honest with me if I am not willing to be honest with myself? It doesn’t work.

We have to be honest with ourselves before we can be happy. Otherwise the ego will run the show and the ego certainly doesn’t want us to be happy.

If you are going to be in the next Dream Relationship Workshop in Gilbert, Arizona on September 24, 25 & 26, 2010, you are going to be able to work directly with your partner about honesty. You will also be working directly with me. I will tell you how I see it. Make sure you want honesty if that is what you are asking for. I don’t want to scare you away. These workshops for couples are a lot of fun. It is also not called the work for nothing.”